January 17, 2013
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When No One Comments
@PinkGlitter02 asked:
“Do you get offended when no one comments on your posts?”
I honestly don’t know what to think when people don’t comment on my posts. Especially when I get a lot of views, but no comments. There are a number of things that run through my mind when that happens.
1) Is my post too long or too boring?
2) Is my post too dense or too complicated?
3) Am I no making sense?
4) Am I being too offensive?
5) Am I not being offensive enough?
6) Oh well. I don’t always comment when I drop by other people’s blogs.
So I don’t really know what to think. I try not to let it get to me. To me, it’s not about the comments I receive, but instead, about whether or not it’s good enough for people to read. That, I will never know unless I’m told. I guess I do get a bit frustrated when I spend a lot of time on a specific post, only to see that no one comments.
I sit at my computer and I’m all like:
Like most people though, I do enjoy when people comment on my blog. I understand that sometimes, some people just don’t know what to say. Some, just don’t want to be confrontational. I guess I’d rather have someone not comment at all if they are just going to be an argumentative jerk in their comments. Disagreement is one thing, but to continue arguing when no one’s mind will be changed is just completely disrespectful and rude. I’ve learned that the hard way many times. It’s like the old adage goes, “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.”
I guess those are my thoughts on comments on my blog. I do always try to make it a point to respond to everyone’s comment though. It’s important to me and it gives me something to look forward too.
Comments (47)
I also try to respond. A) it brings people back again and B) if they took the time to respond to what I had to say, I think I should return the favor.
My thoughts when no one comments and my views are low:
A) no one likes me
B) my title isn’t catchy
C) What the freaking heck?
D) Next time I better look cuter or something (haha)
As well as your thoughts… depends on what the blog was about.
Controversial ones get the most hits for me, as well as my marriage drama. It seems like when I write about my marriage people read, when I write about other things, its hit or miss…. so right now my marriage is at a good place of growth and mutual respect, there isn’t any drama and I am luck to get 75 views.
There’s a lot of blogs I read and like that I don’t always comment on. Sometimes I just like reading other people’s comments and I don’t have a comment for that particular post.
One reason I don’t comment is one where I totally agree….hmmm but thats sometimes the reason I comment…ok this is going round in circles
. Beside that sometimes to me it feels like throwing a pebble into the sea… with blogging but it’s fun at times so I do it!
Well, you probably were not the first to wonder… I rarely read a blog and leave without placing a comment. Sometimes it is a simple one word or short phrase. If I hate it, I say nothing. If I don’t get it, I ask “what” about it. When I love it, I click rec or sometimes even if I like it and I haven’t clicked rec much yet that day. When I stop an d write a paragraph, I usually click to friend… or I may check some of the other posts and leave more comments, etc.
Sometimes I want comments about a particular blog and they don’t happen. Oh well. Other times, I don’t expect much and I goet a bunch of commnets. Who understands it all? Not me.
I don’t feel responsible to have anything magic or illuminating or to blog a tear jerker. I pay attention to what visitors say. Sometimes I reply on that; sometimes. I leave it alone. Sometimes, I reply many days later. Do what you like and be open to what is. That is my advice.
Regards,
Hunt
I do enjoy reading alot of blogs but I don’t always have something I consider interesting enough to add. Perhaps this is because the times I tend to use my computer (and therefore read blogs) is when I’m tired and don’t have enough energy to summon up anything worth saying. Mind you, I suppose that’s the online equivalent of waiting until somebody has finished speaking to you and your turning on your heel and walking away in silence.
Hmm.
*reconsiders behaviour*
great post! my take on ‘no comment’ issue is not an issue for me at all. I’ve been with Xanga for so long that it becomes a place of solitude for me. When I need to express how I feel deep inside which I cannot do on FB, I come to Xanga. It helps me to release the thoughts that play in my mind for that day. If someone reads it and leave a nice message, then I consider it a “plus” for that day. Have a blessed and wonderful day. Your blog was recommended to me,
Dear Jim,
I came here from a recommend. Whenever you feel as if you aren’t getting enough comments. (happens to me on every post I’ve ever posted on Xanga, eight long years worth) just READ THIS HANDY GENERIC TOP BLOG COMMENT string. Michael F. Nyiri, poet, philosopher, fool
I will blame this on old age. lol
I try to comment–Why, selfish!! when I comment, some will return and comment on my site.
I do not like:
Long posts.
Small font.
No paragraphing.
No subject headingss.
No photos.
frank
i’d get a bit down if the intention of a post is to get other’s opinion on the subject, but there’s no one commenting…
but at the same time i’ve come to accept that not many people would actually have any reason to read my post in the first place, so i’m less disappointed not getting comments nowadays.. but it does still feels good if some people comment, especially if it’s something that trigger my mind onto something to ponder upon..
Don’t let it get you down. The purpose of posting is to put it out there for people to read. If they visited, as least they read some, if not all of what you wrote. I comment when I have something to add, or a question, or a smart-ass remark (always made with love!) Sometimes, if I read the post late in the day, whatever I would have commented has already been said.
I get what you mean, it’s nice to get feedback, sometimes, i just do not have the right word to say or write which could be the same with most people, do continue to write tho, cos i for one enjoy reading and commenting too
I think many ppl get a lot of traffic but few comments. It’s not only you…Do you comment every blog you visit? I don’t.
It is ok, though I understand it’s always more fun when people comment. I hope you get lots of comments now!
Have a great Thursday!
Christy
I always just assume I did not have anything to say that struck a chord with them.
for every comment, there is an equal and opposite comment?
I don’t like when no one comments on my posts, either, and I wonder the same things: is my post too long, too boring, are they tired of hearing the same old thing, etc.?
Especially when I see a lot of views and footprints, and I’m like, “why didn’t anyone comment?” But like you said, I’d rather have someone not comment, than comment and be a jerk.
I’m kind of having a problem with this myself right. I keep asking myself, “what’s wrong with my work that makes no one leave comments?” I just have to remind myself that it really doesn’t matter, because at the end of the day I write mostly for myself rather than other people.
I agree with the way you look at it. There’s a lot of reasons people don’t comment, and it’s probably the same reason I usually don’t: I don’t know what to say, and I’ve said the same thing on several other posts: “I like this” and after a while that just gets old, even if it is the way I feel, and/or all I have to say.
DAT GIF.
my posts are all over the place, i completely understand when no one comments.
@thefittedsheet - haha mine too!
I think it does bother me some when I don’t receive anything at all on a post I spent a lot of time on. But it probably doesn’t help matters that I’m too sensitive for my own good, & get my feelings hurt way too easily!
I will let you know when it happens how it felt.
There are a number of reasons I don’t post a comment:
1. The post is so well written, and highly intelligent that I don’t want to make a display of my ignorance or shallowness by opening my mouth – that would be We Deny Everything
2. I have no connection with the blogger and the post isn’t particularly “remarkable” though it may be entertaining – that would be the Godfather of Greenbay.
3. I’ve left previous comments and the blogger never responds so we don’t develop any kind of connection.
4. My momma done told me, “If you can’t say anything nice…”
5. Others have expressed my opinion in previous comments in a more articulate way than I could.
It’s nice to get comments but my blog is mainly a journal for my own enjoyment. If it resonates with, or entertains, someone else, that’s cool!
If no one bothers to comment, heh, I’ll live.
Eh not at all… im pretty sure no one reads mine.. plus its just kind of a place where i dump my thoughts…. a diary of sorts…. but if every once and a while i see a few views on my posts then i think “hmmm awesome.” But then again im not crushed… Also, i am well aware that some of my post can turn in to rants, but hey, ive got to let it out somewhere..
AGREED.
Please come read my blog & comment my posts…
HAHAH, loljk.
but really tho, I agree :3
First, I don’t mind when someone looks but doesn’t comment on my post.
I like to think I write for me, rather than for attention. And, I “get” that sometimes people don’t have anything meaningful to add or might not find that particular post interesting.
But….when it comes to other people’s posts, there are many times I don’t leave a comment, and you covered most of them:
1. I couldn’t get through the post because it was rambling, boring, or had huge paragraphs.2. The topic was really not my cup of tea: juvenile, super religious, etc.
3. I was offended or disagreed with the person so much that if I left a comment, it would not be particularly nice
4. Other people are leaving comments and fighting with/insulting each other. I used to love this stuff, but now I run for the hills.
5. And, of course the most common one I mentioned above: just not having anything meaningful to say.
Just seeing the title, I knew this post would garnish a lot of comments.
I think it is an issue many face, but we have to ask ourselves if number of comments is really the best judgement of quality of a blog. I think not. Some bloggers don’t have a lot of subscribers but they can still have interesting, informative, or funny posts.
I admit there are times I too would perhaps want to read more feedback on my stuff, and wonder thoughts much as you, but I too am guilty of not always having something to say, or verbalizing to all posts I read, so I have to just be satisfied with those who do leave a mark. My blogs vary to a degree anyhow, and so does my readership.
I’ve noticed that bloggers that get lots of comments end their blog with a question of sorts, if on the other hand you end your blog like you did here, and I do most of the time, there isn’t an invitation to comment. Although I notice now that you started with a question, hence all the comments…that and you made top blogs.
I know the feeling. I seldom have many comments. The few I get are a treat. One way or the other, though, lack thereof is not going to stop me from writing and I hope it won’t stop you either. Sometimes you just gotta to write no matter the response or lack thereof to it.
If I don’t comment it usually means I’m tired, or I have nothing to add. Doesn’t look like you’re having a problem getting comments on this post
@Jaynebug - Thank you. I did make it a great day.
@xXrEMmUsXx - I’ve come to the conclusion that people like to be offended. People who don’t have a lot of drama in their own life need the drama of others. That’s why there are people like me who don’t know what to do with out their favorite TV shows.
@musterion99 - Yeah. That’s how I am too. I think I also fear being a know-it-all. I don’t want to say things to people that they may already know.
@Teh_Redfoe - I agree
@eshunt@revelife - I know exactly what you mean. I was only expecting a few comments on this blog and it ended up making Top Blogs… Kind of ironic…
@holeinyoursoul - I understand that. I’m sort of the same way.
@EstherRuthInMe - You are welcome back any time
@baldmike2004 - Come back any time. Yeah… I understand that generic posts tend to generate more traffic and comments. I’ll never understand the way the human brain works!
@HUMOR_ME_NOW - I think I’m the same way!
@maniacsicko - Yeah. I don’t really care about not getting comments, per se… I, like most people, am just surprised by what gets comments and what doesn’t!
I enjoy it when you read and comment 
haha. I don’t really worry about this stuff… getting comments is really the least of my worries, but I was prompted on an earlier post to talk about my feelings on not getting comments, so I shared my thoughts 
@crankycaregiver - I get that a lot too
@mellywelly15 - Thank you
@greatredwoman - I did get lots of comments!
@JstNotherDay - That should be a Xanga law.
@AngelAsh_86 - Xanga is filled with trolls. Sometimes the lack of comments is a blessing
@MyHomeIsWriting - Yeah. It’s funny because what you mentioned is how I feel as I’m going through all of these comments. “What the heck am I going to say that I haven’t already said to someone else?” Grrr!
@thefittedsheet - Are you familiar with Kevin Hart? That’s the comedian in the GIF. He’s one of the best…
@CuddlyKat - That’s how I feel. That’s about the only time I get offended at my lack of comments… When I actually write something with substance and put a lot of time and energy into it. I’m normally only sensitive when I’m put on the offensive. But that could be because some on Xanga don’t understand that disagreement is not akin to argument.
@TheTheologiansCafe - Maybe your next post could be a test post… Like, your subject could only be, “Don’t comment. I want to know what it feels like.” Or something like that. You’ll see that it’s really no big deal though.
@judyrutrider - That’s how I feel a lot. Sometimes I feel like I’m writing for others no matter what I tell myself, though.
@heart_leigh - :)
@HankleDankle17 - Ranting is what blogging is good for. I enjoy rants.
@EDRIANPENGUINO - I’ll stop by and check it out!
@nyfemme - I try to think I write for myself, but I feel like I am subconsciously writing to entertain. It’s a warring conflict inside me. It’s weird because I’m not a huge fan of attention. I just enjoy affirmation.
@Crystalinne - I didn’t think I would hit top blogs. I thought I would just get a few comments. It’s funny how that works, isn’t it?
@mlbncsga - I used to do that. Then, I just got lazy. I didn’t want to have to think of questions to ask because I am really only putting out my opinions. I feel like asking questions opens the door to many arguments. Sometimes I go back to my question-asking format, but some people are just too touchy…
@Ampbreia - It would never stop me from writing. When I first started my Xanga almost 9 years ago, I had no idea that there was such a nice community. I always wrote for myself until I happened to come upon someone’s blog where they were talking about how they weren’t comfortable with commenting on blogs of people they don’t know. I read the comments and realized that a lot of people do that, so I started to comment on other blogs, then they started commenting on mine. I started not looking for attention. I can finish not looking for attention.
@we_deny_everything - Why do you fear Top Blogs?
@Such_are_you - This came out of nowhere. I’m enjoying the irony!
I actually did a post where I asked people not to comment. People didn’t listen.
@TheTheologiansCafe - surprise surprise!
I admit to being someone who is more of a lurker than anything. I actually had to make a personal goal of commenting on other people’s posts because so often I find myself reading them and never commenting because I think, “who am I to say anything to this? Who am I to give advice/commentary/comendation/condemnation etc?” Personally I don’t really care if people comment or not or how many comments I get. Sure it feels good to see comments and eprops and what not and get excited but in the end, this place is for me, for me to share my thoughts/beliefs/dreams/fears and if no one but me reads or cares about it then that is fine. Most of the time I don’t write for an audience, I just write for catharsis/processing.
@HUMOR_ME_NOW - I could add “poor spelling” and all caps posts…BAD.
I’ll steal this reason 1) The post is so well written, and highly intelligent that I don’t want to make a display of my ignorance or shallowness by opening my mouth, 2) I don’t feel a connection to the blogger, or 3) I came across the blog on a recommend and didn’t really have a comment for whatever reason.
The lack of comments don’t bother me much. The lack of views bothers me a little more. I accept that sometimes people don’t know what to say to my blogs.
Here on a rec.. So now… I somewhat get offended when I get visits, but not comments. I always try and say something because I think it’s the nice/polite thing to do. I’m one of the few who have a handful of faithful followers and we do call each other friend. The only thing that really bothers me, is when I faithfully visit certain people, and they NEVER bother responding to my comment or take the time to visit me. Excluding Dan, cuz I know that’s just how he is.
I know, I shouldn’t take it so personal. Really am trying to be better at this year..
I like it when people comment on mine, but I don’t always comment even on a good post, if I don’t think I have much to add, unless the person who wrote it has made a point of engaging me on my posts or I have something in common with them like trucking or a bunch of kids.
Sometimes I comment, sometimes I don’t, if I have nothing to say. Plus after 10+ years of commenting and having them not returned, over and over, I’ve just decided that its not that big a deal.
I don’t worry about people coming by and not commenting…though I do enjoy people stopping in AND commenting if something sparks them to comment.
I’ve been here for a while, so I got comfortable with the idea of blogging for myself rather than an audience. Having an audience is nice, but it’s not guaranteed to last. I had people a while ago—nice folk, too. Life gets in the way. People come and go. Hell, most of my subscribers moved on to other sites. Between Facebook, You Tube, Twitter, and a bunch of other things we don’t have names for, blogs are the dying breed of the internet world. From where I’m sitting, Xanga is like a grave yard…. at least when you compare it to four or five years ago.
Then again, 46 comments and 9 recommendations… You’re getting TheologiansCafe-level feedback. You’re doing something right, I say.
Good topic and honestly i don’t get fussed if there are not many comments. Consider the focus of your blog…a photo blog, a journal, work or hobby related…pleased if i can be informative on a certain topic e.g. mine started out when I was working in the arctic and had connection with others in same situation. Now my work situation has changed so not as of those related topics. As well I think the prevalence of social media has affected the blogging community…or at least i have seen a change since blogging since 2004.